Being Perfect
Hello friends,
when you do some work, or in relationships, you always want everything should go as expected. We want PERFECTION in everything we do, isn’t it?
Note: you can also read my post: Pursuit of happiness
But are you the perfect person to the job, who will decide that?
Our work, our day to day life is in itself mirror our level of skillfulness over somethings. How mature are we dealing with relationships, whether we have the necessary knowledge to do that job or not? I am not taking out the probability factor of getting failed even with your best of efforts. It’s not like you should never fail, failure is an essential component of getting good at something. But whenever you fail at something, it actually gives you one more opportunity to learn something new about yourself. It’s all about how you embrace your failures.
How we can become perfect?
Becoming a perfect person is not an easy task, I am not perfect either, but I am in a pursuit of that. I learned somethings, after doing a lot many different things and that’s what I want to share.
a) You should be able to differentiate between the materialistic world and humans.
Why I am saying that, let me explain it to you. I am doing hard work to become rich, I am doing hard work to be good at some sport, I am doing hard work to make our relationship work, are all these desires or let’s say wishes same? or at least similar? NO!
When you are trying to get some “thing”, like car, house, money, these are materialistic things which work in a way where you can do your hard work and can be reasonably successful. In terms of materialistic things, it’s always been said, “Hard work always pays off.” Yes, in the case of materials it’s true, but becoming holistically successful, or happy in every sense, super rich with mental happiness is not so easy, whatever hard work you put in, or whatever level of expert you are, it doesn’t matter.
The more we want from the outside world, name, fame, place, money, recognition, the number of variables which can fail keep on adding up. Especially when your progress and success start getting influenced by other surrounding humans, because they have their own aspirations, their own reasons to support or not to support in your cause and endeavors. That’s why if you notice, successful people (Holistically successful) most of the time carry a reasonably good EQ along with IQ.
For materialistic things, your hard work can work, but for fellow humans, it’s your consciousness that works.
You should be conscious of your fellow human’s requirements, aspirations. The best way to treat someone is considering a way you want yourself to be treated by others but add one more thing, don’t get disheartened by not getting things to reciprocate in a similar manner. Just try to understand the reasons behind them, if you can’t understand them, then at least don’t set a negative emotion for that human being. Just make a space between yourself and that person, but always consider that a human has always had their own reasons to do the things.
b) Life is not some 2 or 3 hr movie, it takes time to achieve the thing.
I have read biographies and watched movies on big people life, in movies, everything gets wrapped up inside three hours and you see people like Walt Disney, Steve Jobs or Chris Gardner, pass through the phases of the life of limitations to the abundance. But life which you and I are living are not some three hours movies, nothing will come soon, we have to spend good 10-15 years at least to be in a position where we can dare to tell about our achievements. This is where persistence in constructive efforts will come into play. Keep on building up on whatever you are trying to build, don’t try to pass judgment early on, whether you are on the right path or wrong path.
c) Humans are the most beautiful creation of God, with very unpredictable nature.
How many times have you heard people saying, “I was good with that person, but he/she cheated on me, or something like, I gave everything to our relationship but my partner didn’t reciprocate.” I mean we can’t predict what we can get from our fellow human beings, it’s not like they are bad, or cruel or emotionless, in fact, we cannot pass on any judgment about anyone till the time actually knowing under what conditions he/she did what. Be patient with fellow human beings.
So what we conclude here and what should we do trying to be a Perfect person, or better holistically successful?
Learn to deal with situations which don’t go the way you want. Learn to respect people and their ideas about you. Surround yourself with difficult people, who can criticize you on your shortcomings and learn from that. Every time someone made fun of me, because of my genuine limitation or skill gap, I always thanked that person. There is no point of losing motivation here. The only skill here you need is to differentiate between constructive criticism or some comment which is of no use. You should be able to differentiate between constructive feedback and some trash.
Learn to respect Diversity of People and Ideas
I worked in different environments, with people coming from different cultures. Sometimes more knowledgeable than me, sometimes a little ignorant, but my learning never stopped. I heard comments about my dressing, I ignored that, I heard comments about my culture and language. I ignored all that, but when someone pointed out one single mistake in my work, which I can very easily correct, I went to the same person and thanked him/her for that. My learning never stopped, and in the end, I earned their respect too.
Knowing about your ignorance, accepting your shortcomings is the very first step in making yourself perfect. Understanding people are different and they have their own sense of communicating things or different expressions will help you in respecting them. It will help you in getting along with them. If everyone starts behaving in a way the way you exactly want, trust me in that case you consider yourself living with robots. You can learn only one thing from Robots, HOW TO FOLLOW ORDERS?
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What prompted me to write this post? I am actually giving some interviews for the job, I got a couple of offers. But today I went to a big company interview and got the rejection. What I loved about today, was my feedback. My recruiter shared it on the spot and briefed me about what I was lacking. In that organization, people were very honest, and straightforward. Questions they asked were not only technical but at the same time have their practical relevance. I got to know about gaps in my understanding of the concepts. I am happy even after rejection because I got the work to do. Their feedback which will eventually help in making up my understanding about my upcoming job.
This is what my understanding of becoming a perfect guy!!! What’s yours?