There could be N-number of definitions of what is life, but the LIFE I am referring to here is something which we live every day. The time that we spent while we are consciously acting. So if someone asks me, what do you mean when you are referring to LIFE? I would just say LIFE is nothing but our constant pursuit of filling up of VOIDS that we observe every day. We are almost constant in our endeavors of filling up these voids. For someone it is a career, someone has it in form of family, love, relationships, money, sex, emotions. If not all these, at least a VOID of survival exists for everyone. People who have their basic needs fulfilled, have a different void of getting acknowledged by the masses.
Trying to go backward, is it possible to have NO voids or fewer voids? I can say, Voids in life can never be zero, but for sure the lesser they are the more happy and peaceful we can be. Look for a kid, who has just arrived into this world, I guess the first void he/she wants to fill is just hunger, once that is taken care of, they can sleep all day and night. For them everything is new, every expression is amusement. Looks like they don’t need anything else, apart from seeing here and there. As kids grow up, the recognition of voids increases, but they are still very happy as these voids can easily be filled, their voids can be deep, but it is for sure that kids don’t carry any voids, or at least they don’t acknowledge any Void in their life that is impossible to fill.
The moment we start reaching our 20s, then 30s, 40s or so, our happiness, desperation, the mood becomes more tightly connected to the state of these voids. Are they many, are they hard to fill, or there is some void that can never be filled no matter how hard we try. Like broken families, losing your loved ones, an accident that made you handicapped, or it could be anything. My own mood swings are most of the time resultant of these voids and I curse my sensitivity to observe these voids that I have in my life so closely.
Sometimes I act wisely, I say who is watching me? Who set these goals, aspirations, or targets that I will do so-n-so thing in my life. Isn’t it me only? And now when I am not able to do that what will happen, is there any big announcement going to happen to declare me a FAILURE in this world. Our aspirations decide our void, it is true that without any observable void we are dead too, but seeing the suffering of people, their desperation to fill these voids makes me feel like I am getting controlled to an extent which I myself don’t like.
Why can’t we share our voids? Can’t we see that purpose of life or meaning of life is more towards gaining experience? The purpose of life is to be happy, because if we are happy, somehow all these voids just disappear. Now the challenge is how to keep ourselves happy all the time? Just while writing this blog I am thinking, to keep ourselves happy we need to stop doing things that make us feel unhappy or make us feel guilty. If wasting time makes me feel bad, unhappy at the end of the day, I need to particularly recognize those activities where I am wasting my time. Is it something that I really like, or I am just taking it as an excuse for procrastinating my ever so important work? I guess I started giving some lectures here.
In short, what I can say, we need to limit ourselves from being controlled by these voids. Can we recognize these voids, can we fill these voids? No? Can we say that it is the end of the world for me? Take a breath, who is telling you that it is the end of the world? Isn’t your own brain? Think and go back to your roots, when you didn’t have any such void, or you didn’t recognize it? When we were kids, we never think in this way that someday our Parents will get aged, they will die also. A kid never thinks about these voids. They do aspire to become great Astronaut or Basketball player, but they never think their life is dependent on that. The meaning of happiness is totally different from what we adults think. And what I am thinking is, when things don’t go our way, I guess we should return back and try to become a kid again.
I am trying to understand Human Consciousness, what I can say is, A kid has more sensitivity towards goodness, towards happiness, which we lose as we grow adults, but aren’t all those bad experiences are things of the past in our brain. If we stop our flow of thoughts or make some kind of agreement with our past, can’t we say that we don’t recognize/acknowledge that deep void in our life? Who is judging you constantly? You only I guess and no one else.
Try to fill the voids which can be filled, if not, please remind yourself, all these voids don’t exist when you sleep and when you are happy and everyone else might carry a void that is bigger and deeper than yours. You haven’t walked in someone else shoes to decide that who is lucky or who is not.